Every day and every month, has been a memorable adventure. Together we’ve traveled the country several times and back. We’ve moved. We’ve made new friends. We’ve faced some really hard things. But in all honesty, the easy and the hard, the good and the bad, it’s all been just a beautiful adventure.
We celebrated this past weekend by a wonderful little trip out of town. I’ll tell you the story if you visit my NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL! (Had to celebrate our anniversary with something particularly memorable!
This last year I’ve learned one very simple lesson about being married, that’s really changed everything in my life: “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11 Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? 12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” – Ecc. 4:9-12
My health is a very difficult and unpleasant challenge – not just for me but for Philipp as well. We can’t go out and eat anywhere together. We have to plan very specifically where our adventures take us, else I get stuck in a rough spot without food. We can’t share the typical foodie experiences together. We can’t stay out late and discover new things out on the town.
To a very significant degree, our life has to be quiet, stable, and simple right now. Oh yes, we’ve had our adventures, but now we know what is too much – or have to bear with the consequences if we exceed that. And of course, trying to get well has come with a great financial cost.
Through all of this, I literally can’t imagine being married to anyone but Phil. He is ok with quiet. He’s ok with making sure I can eat where we go. He wants to have a good time with me, and no matter how those plans come together, he’s good for the ride. He’s my rock. He’s my shoulder. He’s my pillar of strength (and I’m not just talking about those fabulous muscles ;-). He’s gentle and kind, and never makes me feel like I am “less than” or an inconvenient burden.
For someone who’s life revolves around an unwell body, it is a priceless treasure to be married to a man who helps keep my spirit well. No matter how difficult the nightmare of failing health continues to be, Philipp is the one thing I am daily and readily grateful for.
Our second year has certainly been harder than the first. But we are making it. In fact, I would even dare say we are making it splendidly because of Grace and Love.
In Love and War by John and Staci Eldredge is one of my favorite books on marriage out there. My favorite quote from the book continues to impact me profoundly: “Marriage is the sanctuary of the heart. You have been entrusted with the heart of another human being. Whatever else your life’s great mission will entail, loving and defending this heart next to you is part of your great quest.”
If you are married, remember that your mission with your spouse is sacred.
If you are not married, remember that becoming a person who can care for the heart of another is just as important now as it will be later.
And no matter what your LoveStory right now, hear my heart: You w.i.l.l. find your ForeverLove no matter how painful or lonely or trying the road. And when you find that person, like my Philipp, who cherishes you exactly where you are, you will understand that is worth the wait.
Here’s to love.
Here’s to marriage.
Here’s to the adventures ahead!